It was funny- the parts that I found the easiest and most familiar: bentching, hallel, nishmat were the parts that seemed like they hadn't seem them in ages for them.)

Actually kind of understandable -- my family are all tolerably familiar with that stuff, but I don't think we've finished a seder in ages, if at all. Everything seems to trickle off after the food. I read somewhere that Maggid used to be after the meal, but the Sages moved it up for exactly that reason. And we don't even use wine!