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Steve got back to me, so I'll be going to the Rochester marathon. By myself, as far as family- first time I've done that at an actual event, even a short one. So- up probably by bus (the train schedule was Weird, with a capital Weird, and none of them would get me there by SHabbat), stay Friday night to Monday morning, and back again by train. Anyone have good reading reccomendations? If nothign else, I can work on the quilt- it's been on hold for long enough, sleep, and listen to music, if I can get batteries before then- I should for my camera too, so that oughtn't be too hard.
Steve got back to me, so I'll be going to the Rochester marathon. By myself, as far as family- first time I've done that at an actual event, even a short one. So- up probably by bus (the train schedule was Weird, with a capital Weird, and none of them would get me there by SHabbat), stay Friday night to Monday morning, and back again by train. Anyone have good reading reccomendations? If nothign else, I can work on the quilt- it's been on hold for long enough, sleep, and listen to music, if I can get batteries before then- I should for my camera too, so that oughtn't be too hard.
If baffles me when people refer to someone else's significant other, well, boyfriend, as "the boy". First off, because I've never heard a girlfriend referred to as "the girl"- and if someone did, the guy to whom they were speaking would probably get offended. Secondly, and more importantly, by this point, and to my mind if one is dating at all, one is more than a child. "The/your man", perhaps might be acceptable, although that carries all sorts of other undesired overtones, and the gender reverse issue still applies. I often go for "your/the young man" which must have other issues, but at least gives everyone involved some aspect of adulthood, and "your/the young lady" is also fairly unobjectionable. It does sound rather formal, but I rarely have a problem with that. Thirdly, it could apply just as easily to one's son as one's significant other, and that would be problematic indeed.
If baffles me when people refer to someone else's significant other, well, boyfriend, as "the boy". First off, because I've never heard a girlfriend referred to as "the girl"- and if someone did, the guy to whom they were speaking would probably get offended. Secondly, and more importantly, by this point, and to my mind if one is dating at all, one is more than a child. "The/your man", perhaps might be acceptable, although that carries all sorts of other undesired overtones, and the gender reverse issue still applies. I often go for "your/the young man" which must have other issues, but at least gives everyone involved some aspect of adulthood, and "your/the young lady" is also fairly unobjectionable. It does sound rather formal, but I rarely have a problem with that. Thirdly, it could apply just as easily to one's son as one's significant other, and that would be problematic indeed.
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