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Today's BORG meeting was interesting cramped. The folks who hadn't been BORGlings in the past, but were in the play showed up, which pleased me- I like them, and they add some excitement to the crowd (which yes, is plentifully exciting on its own- but this is a different excitement). Therefore, to add to the usual stifling heat, it was rather cramped. I grabbed my usual place on the table, and stood firm (well, sat firm, I suppose), but it was kind of chaotic and cacophonious. Not that these are unusual either- but I was very aware of it, at some points. Didn't hit my overload level- but it did get close. That sort of thing is fine as long as I'm focused on something in particular, but as soon as I'm aware of quite how much is going on, it can get very overwhelming. Rather like sitting in a dining hall when you're aware of how many people are going by constantly- often when I get to Sherman, I can't focus at first because of all the moving people. It's something I've noticed more lately, but certainly in high school, I didn't dare put my head down in the cafeteria- all the noise and hubbub would make me depressed like no-one's business- it made me lonely and overwhelmed me in one fell swoop, as it were.
Dave and I went out for dinner. An actual date. Somehow, I think they work better when the relationship starts that way then when it's done because "I should really take you out for dinner". Maybe it's my homebody tendencies showing through again, but I don't see so much of a difference between eating out and eating in the dining hall, besides the different food. I know, it's a treat, and I do see it as one- but I'm so used to not actually going on dates when I'm going out with someone that I don't quite know how to focus it into the way a relationship works. But then, any relationship is a new experience. This one is very much so.
I'm often amused/confused by how differently dating is portrayed and carried out. One reads about going out on dates, and Then starts an actual relationship with someone. In the high school and college worlds, that doesn't seem to happen. Similarly, in theory a couple is simply going out at first, and only Then goes steady/becomes exclusive- I've seen very few couples who don't seem to be exclusive from teh start: it's assumed, at least in the circles I see, unless explicitly stated otherwise. As for physical standards for what's acceptible- haven't the foggiest idea there: the company I keep/have kept does Not seem like a fair way of judging. I'm not sure if there is one, really. Books seem to still hit a bit of a 50s attitude towards dating- or maybe it's just the books that I've read, which is quite, quite possible. I wonder if that's the sort of thing that just usually lags behind reality, and when it changed in teh first place.
Dave and I went out for dinner. An actual date. Somehow, I think they work better when the relationship starts that way then when it's done because "I should really take you out for dinner". Maybe it's my homebody tendencies showing through again, but I don't see so much of a difference between eating out and eating in the dining hall, besides the different food. I know, it's a treat, and I do see it as one- but I'm so used to not actually going on dates when I'm going out with someone that I don't quite know how to focus it into the way a relationship works. But then, any relationship is a new experience. This one is very much so.
I'm often amused/confused by how differently dating is portrayed and carried out. One reads about going out on dates, and Then starts an actual relationship with someone. In the high school and college worlds, that doesn't seem to happen. Similarly, in theory a couple is simply going out at first, and only Then goes steady/becomes exclusive- I've seen very few couples who don't seem to be exclusive from teh start: it's assumed, at least in the circles I see, unless explicitly stated otherwise. As for physical standards for what's acceptible- haven't the foggiest idea there: the company I keep/have kept does Not seem like a fair way of judging. I'm not sure if there is one, really. Books seem to still hit a bit of a 50s attitude towards dating- or maybe it's just the books that I've read, which is quite, quite possible. I wonder if that's the sort of thing that just usually lags behind reality, and when it changed in teh first place.
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Even though I think plays engender friends and find it to be a good thing, I usually feel that it's done somewhat artificially. This is definitely the case with W.S., but I still can't be impressed over the drastic change. In all the meetings I went to before the play, I always went for the sake of what the club stood for, because the subject matter was dear to me. But since the play- no longer do I pray for the "business" parts of the meeting to be over so I can leave, now I am actually one of the last to leave! I can talk to people, and this odd experience has contractually forced us to spend so much time with each other, that our friendship has been established due to association.
That's why I appreciated your hug so much. And why I'm curious as to how I was selected, since even though people might have felt I was the best for the part, or the one with the most chemistry with the other two- well, to me, this was all a favor. I really didn't do W.S. for the play itself (Prachett is not on my list of favorite authors), I did it for the process' sake, and because I know how closely plays bind people together. Thank you for choosing me, BORG is infinitely more enjoyable now.
And sorry for plaguing your LJ with this hella long comment.
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As for the part- we did it because you gave the right sort of reading. It worked. End of story.
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It's not like it particularly matters, the play is over and those who are offended are.... well, silly. But I just thought my reading wasn't particularly good - especially in comparison to Tova's. I basically felt that since she was typecast as a dwarf, I was sorta stuck in her place. But I think I did a good job.
There's nothing like being told you're special and wanted.
Thank you.
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Let's get one thing straight: Though I may be short, I DO NOT HAVE A BEARD! There, now that *that's* been taken care of . . . :-P
I'm exponentially glad that you appreciated the amount of work I put into the play, and am happy that at least in your opinion, my reading was successful. To reassure you, you did a fine job in the play, according to my own unschooled opinion. I'm glad you showed up at the BORG meeting--I was anxious that all the new friends I made as a result of the play would fade into the background and I'd rarely see them. Thanks for not allowing that to happen. I'm sure we'll be spending quite a bit of time together over the next two years. :)
--Tova
P.S. Thanks for the pictures! They're lovely. MTFBWY
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Tova- I think that even if you were to have a beard, you'd be the lovliest dwarf indeed. And I'll try not to "fade out." I was a part of BORG before the play, if you don't recall. Now that I did the play, I just feel more accepted. :)
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Hope you and the Duke found proper sustenance Friday night at Sherman.