A choice for Practicality

[debka_notion]

Am skipping the Orthodox minyan's dawn minyan tomorrow (well, Tuesday morning) because it's too much bother to daven, then come back and repeat shema with tallit and tfillin. If I could find an isolated spot, I'd be tempted to just go with egal ritualgear and all, but that would Not be nice. And I need the sleep. But I did go to mincha-maariv today: and was not the only woman who stayed for maariv- there was one other. But I couldn't hear any of the other women respond to anything. ANyone know if there's a reason why they don't respond audibly to say, kaddish? Or Amen to anything? As it is, it feels like this weird cultural silencing, and it weirds me out.

Comments

[doodah.livejournal.com]

When I go, which is rare during the week, I definitely respond audibly. There are others...but they might only come on Shabbos.

BOO needs a little shaking up...I'd say bring on at least the tallis...

[thevortex.livejournal.com]

It needs a LOT of shaking up. I did my best...

Huzzah!

The Vortex

[debka-notion.livejournal.com]

Hmm, you're the second woman who's told me that they do respond audibly at BOO... And the other does go during the week fairly often, I think. She suggested that maybe it was just that people didn't want to be noticed as the first/only person to be audible.

[bobtheslinky.livejournal.com]

Uh... I think it's really a personal thing. I don't imagine EVERY guy screams his responses.
I am pretty darn vocal, and I have often been the only woman to stay through maariv. There just tend to be less women, and some are just quieter, who knows? I don't think it's a POLICY.

[debka-notion.livejournal.com]

I'm not talking about screaming- just about being audible- talking/chanting volume. I didn't think it was a policy- it just seems to be what I notice every time I get my guts up to go to a BOO service- and some of those girls whom I see aren't quiet any other time... I don't know.