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debka_notion) wrote2011-10-31 01:51 pm
debka_notion) wrote2011-10-31 01:51 pm
A Weekend On Our Own
After our first week back to a "real-life" schedule (really, our first shot at it, as since our last "full week", H's school schedule has changed, I've acquired a relatively hours-intensive part-time job, and H has started night seder twice a week- I join him for it once a week), we were not quite feeling like hosting a shabbos meal- so we did something quite unusual for us, and had both meals on our own. It was both lovely- lots of time together, after a very busy week, and a somewhat calmer Friday in preparation- and also left me feeling like that is a lot of time on our own to make conversation through all of. It was worthwhile- but next time, I might try to think of some things to talk about, as well. I love talking to H about pretty much anything and everything- but everyone has quiet moments.
Sunday was also a lot of "just us" time, although a good amount of it was spent on homework, and on phone calls with my family. I feel a bit bad- H's family seems to get less of our phone time, and we're missing talking to them- but they're not as firmly scheduled in, and so things get in the way of the call... This is definitely something to work on. On the other hand, I had a long and lovely conversation with my sister, which was a very nice surprise.
This week promises to be just as busy as last week, if not more so, as it will culminate in a weekend at my parents' place, and the celebration of my grandmother's wedding on Motzei Shabbos. So- we need to fit shabbos preparations and packing (and outfit choices) into the week, along with travel time and the like. Should be good- but should definitely be busy.
And today, I take a 9 year old trick-or-treating, or at least pass out candy for his mother while he goes with a peer in the building- details still TBD. I'm thinking curiously about what approach to Halloween I want to stand behind, and I really don't know. Excuses for costumes and candy come around only so often- but the "not Jewish" aspect is a worry. We'll see what I think tomorrow, I guess.
Sunday was also a lot of "just us" time, although a good amount of it was spent on homework, and on phone calls with my family. I feel a bit bad- H's family seems to get less of our phone time, and we're missing talking to them- but they're not as firmly scheduled in, and so things get in the way of the call... This is definitely something to work on. On the other hand, I had a long and lovely conversation with my sister, which was a very nice surprise.
This week promises to be just as busy as last week, if not more so, as it will culminate in a weekend at my parents' place, and the celebration of my grandmother's wedding on Motzei Shabbos. So- we need to fit shabbos preparations and packing (and outfit choices) into the week, along with travel time and the like. Should be good- but should definitely be busy.
And today, I take a 9 year old trick-or-treating, or at least pass out candy for his mother while he goes with a peer in the building- details still TBD. I'm thinking curiously about what approach to Halloween I want to stand behind, and I really don't know. Excuses for costumes and candy come around only so often- but the "not Jewish" aspect is a worry. We'll see what I think tomorrow, I guess.
Re: other holidays
And I wouldn't prohibit a kid from participating at school, I think- but participating at home might send a different message. You know, the difference between "sharing someone else's tradition with them" and it being "ours". On the other hand, you're right about all the things a Jewish kid doesn't get- although they do get other things, including another chance to dress up, come springtime. I think that if I was going to encourage kids not to trick-or-treat, I'd aim to make hanging out and giving out candy something really special, with benefits that you'd miss if you were trick-or-treating. But that's compensation, presuming that I'd already decided against... So it's jumping the barrel- or whatever that expression actually is, that I'm not remembering.