Space and Time

Today's BORG meeting was interesting cramped. The folks who hadn't been BORGlings in the past, but were in the play showed up, which pleased me- I like them, and they add some excitement to the crowd (which yes, is plentifully exciting on its own- but this is a different excitement). Therefore, to add to the usual stifling heat, it was rather cramped. I grabbed my usual place on the table, and stood firm (well, sat firm, I suppose), but it was kind of chaotic and cacophonious. Not that these are unusual either- but I was very aware of it, at some points. Didn't hit my overload level- but it did get close. That sort of thing is fine as long as I'm focused on something in particular, but as soon as I'm aware of quite how much is going on, it can get very overwhelming. Rather like sitting in a dining hall when you're aware of how many people are going by constantly- often when I get to Sherman, I can't focus at first because of all the moving people. It's something I've noticed more lately, but certainly in high school, I didn't dare put my head down in the cafeteria- all the noise and hubbub would make me depressed like no-one's business- it made me lonely and overwhelmed me in one fell swoop, as it were.

Dave and I went out for dinner. An actual date. Somehow, I think they work better when the relationship starts that way then when it's done because "I should really take you out for dinner". Maybe it's my homebody tendencies showing through again, but I don't see so much of a difference between eating out and eating in the dining hall, besides the different food. I know, it's a treat, and I do see it as one- but I'm so used to not actually going on dates when I'm going out with someone that I don't quite know how to focus it into the way a relationship works. But then, any relationship is a new experience. This one is very much so.

I'm often amused/confused by how differently dating is portrayed and carried out. One reads about going out on dates, and Then starts an actual relationship with someone. In the high school and college worlds, that doesn't seem to happen. Similarly, in theory a couple is simply going out at first, and only Then goes steady/becomes exclusive- I've seen very few couples who don't seem to be exclusive from teh start: it's assumed, at least in the circles I see, unless explicitly stated otherwise. As for physical standards for what's acceptible- haven't the foggiest idea there: the company I keep/have kept does Not seem like a fair way of judging. I'm not sure if there is one, really. Books seem to still hit a bit of a 50s attitude towards dating- or maybe it's just the books that I've read, which is quite, quite possible. I wonder if that's the sort of thing that just usually lags behind reality, and when it changed in teh first place.

Space and Time

Today's BORG meeting was interesting cramped. The folks who hadn't been BORGlings in the past, but were in the play showed up, which pleased me- I like them, and they add some excitement to the crowd (which yes, is plentifully exciting on its own- but this is a different excitement). Therefore, to add to the usual stifling heat, it was rather cramped. I grabbed my usual place on the table, and stood firm (well, sat firm, I suppose), but it was kind of chaotic and cacophonious. Not that these are unusual either- but I was very aware of it, at some points. Didn't hit my overload level- but it did get close. That sort of thing is fine as long as I'm focused on something in particular, but as soon as I'm aware of quite how much is going on, it can get very overwhelming. Rather like sitting in a dining hall when you're aware of how many people are going by constantly- often when I get to Sherman, I can't focus at first because of all the moving people. It's something I've noticed more lately, but certainly in high school, I didn't dare put my head down in the cafeteria- all the noise and hubbub would make me depressed like no-one's business- it made me lonely and overwhelmed me in one fell swoop, as it were.

Dave and I went out for dinner. An actual date. Somehow, I think they work better when the relationship starts that way then when it's done because "I should really take you out for dinner". Maybe it's my homebody tendencies showing through again, but I don't see so much of a difference between eating out and eating in the dining hall, besides the different food. I know, it's a treat, and I do see it as one- but I'm so used to not actually going on dates when I'm going out with someone that I don't quite know how to focus it into the way a relationship works. But then, any relationship is a new experience. This one is very much so.

I'm often amused/confused by how differently dating is portrayed and carried out. One reads about going out on dates, and Then starts an actual relationship with someone. In the high school and college worlds, that doesn't seem to happen. Similarly, in theory a couple is simply going out at first, and only Then goes steady/becomes exclusive- I've seen very few couples who don't seem to be exclusive from teh start: it's assumed, at least in the circles I see, unless explicitly stated otherwise. As for physical standards for what's acceptible- haven't the foggiest idea there: the company I keep/have kept does Not seem like a fair way of judging. I'm not sure if there is one, really. Books seem to still hit a bit of a 50s attitude towards dating- or maybe it's just the books that I've read, which is quite, quite possible. I wonder if that's the sort of thing that just usually lags behind reality, and when it changed in teh first place.